31 to 40 divorce is final healing comes slowly first time alone weird occurances abound strange nightmares haunt then she discovers he's stalking her hang up calls rear view glimpses guilt trip notes angry emails sent tense work encounters gradually she understands he's the crazy times are wild she lets loose belated teen adventures she works out she goes dancing wins trivia contests busy, busy, busy new love interest tall and lanky harley riding veteran talks real nice scares off stalker but something's wrong finally she discovers on the rebound married lover revealed she meets fate a new guy a hurried courtship four battered children they need her she can't refuse honeymoon is brief just months alone kids' needs call custody court battle instant family life court-ordered counseling kids get better she gets worse family stress increases husband changes shifts everything's on her constant headaches strike family reunion nightmare car breaks down stranded in Millington childhood memories surface husband's in trouble keeps getting demoted the ultimate transfer across state lines abandoning his children but they rebel follow their father long distance marriage driving every weekend no personal time she drives marathon does their laundry washes their dishes they ignore her fortieth birthday forgotten she works harder preparing for holidays saving up leave till he advises "call a lawyer" Merry Christmas--divorce c. 12/2008